Comforting a Child Survivor

Comforting a child survivor of assault can be very difficult. Because parents and guardians often need as much support as the child needs, it is important to get the support you need so that you can be at your best to help your child. Some ways to help your child are:

• Reassure your child that he or she is safe.


• Let your child know that what happened was not his or her fault. It did not happen because he or she did something wrong.


• Provide care and love.


• If she/he wants to talk about the assault, allow them to. Ask a counselor how you can help your child talk about his or her concerns, questions, and fears. Keep a record of what your child says. (Be careful not to initiate such conversations, as it may affect the prosecution, if there is one).


• Reassure your child that he or she is not permanently hurt.


• Try not to show anger around your child. Children may interpret your anger at the offender with anger at him or her.


• Help your child to keep his or her normal routine.


• Get professional help. Sexual assault centers have counselors specially trained to help children and non- offending parents. They can also help you work with the police, the hospital and the legal system.